A Reddit user has called for people on the internet to be “kinder to ugly women,” detailing a traumatic experience she recently had in a heartfelt post.
The user, going by the name ‘throwmeaway4352,’ began: “I am an ugly woman. Objectively, I really am. Please don’t argue with me on this one… I am not overweight, actually in better shape than most women my age, I dress well, I am great with makeup.
“But last weekend the world just had to remind me that despite all this, people will go out of their way to kick me.”
I am an ugly woman. Objectively, I really am. Please don’t argue with me on this one.
The woman explained that while not typically being a big fan of clubbing, as it was a friend’s 21st birthday party she made the effort to dress up and build up the courage to go out. “There was an outfit that I had bought a long time ago, but that I’d never worn because it was a little sexier than what I usually wear,” the woman continued. “A close friend had picked it out for me when we were shopping, and, in that “you go girl” kind of way had urged me to buy it. I did my makeup painstakingly, straightened my hair which always takes forever because my hair is huge, put on that too-sexy-for-me outfit.
She added: “And when I looked in the mirror I was even surprised at myself. “Wow, is that me? I actually look…nice!””
Unfortunately, her excitement was short-lived. In the post she explained that upon discovering that the club required payment for entry, a group of guys paid for her friends, but not her. “The guys were doing everything to avoid eye contact with me,” she wrote. “They were looking at the ground, the street, pretending to look through their wallets for cash to cover one more girl. It was so painfully obvious that I felt like just going home.”
After eventually making her way into the club, the woman began dancing with a man, only for him to swiftly reject her in favor of an “attractive brunette.” The biggest blow, though, was when she realized that a photographer taking group photos of her and friends was actually cropping her out of the photos – at one point asking her if she would stand aside so he could take some snapshots of just her friends.
For all the effort I had put into looking and feeling good that night, it seemed like it just didn’t matter.
The woman concluded: “For all the effort I had put into looking and feeling good that night, it seemed like it just didn’t matter. So the night ends with me leaving the club. My friend with the bf at home who was dancing with me left with me so I wouldn’t be alone.
“The rest of my girl friends didn’t notice what had happened with the photographer, so when they asked me where I was going I just told them I was tired and wanted to go home. And since I wasn’t leaving alone, they let me.
“Please be kinder to ugly people… Maybe one of the people I met that night will read this post and recognize themselves. I hope so, if only so they can know how behavior they’re barely conscious of can affect someone else.”
The woman’s story, which can be read in full here, is incredibly honest and certainly made me think of similar scenarios I’ve encountered (and regretfully involved myself in) in clubs over the years. Clubs are places in which people form connections with one another based upon physical attraction formed in dark rooms, so the shallowness comes with the territory. But I think that this woman’s story will help people think twice before they act when they find themselves in similar situations.
Bravo, honest Reddit user.
