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Sexting is always a thrilling experience, whether you do it with a stranger or your partner who is currently away. However, there are some rules you need to follow to make this experience a memorable one. That is why we’ve decided to collect as many sexting tips as we can and compress them into 4 main categories you need to keep an eye out for if you want to impress your partner. Since sexting is all about imagination and your own creativity, you need to be skillful enough to paint a seductive picture in your partner’s mind. Here is all you need to know.
Be Descriptive
Well, we’ve already mentioned creativity as one of the most important elements of sexting and it really is. You need to be able to present your sexual fantasies to your partner in great detail because as they say – God is in the details. Create a general scene in your mind and then single out all of the details that contribute to the image. In your fantasy, where is she and where are you? What was she doing before you came in? What was she wearing? How will you make an entrance? Are you going to sneak up on her and softly whisper something on her ear or are you going to come in storming like a sex god who isn’t afraid to show off all his skills? As your descriptions start to escalate, don’t forget to continue using even the smallest details as they are usually the sexiest.
Be Secretive
Of course, if your sexting is only a prelude to a sexual act that will follow in person, you should work mainly on building up the anticipation. You don’t want your girl to do everything herself, right? What is your purpose then? Instead, try to be secretive about your intention. Don’t tell her everything you plan on doing, just make subtle hints and let her guess. Sometimes her guesses are even better than what you had in mind, so it’s a neat little trick. Use vague descriptions and then add a detail or two just to spice up the discussion a little bit before calming the passion yet again. This way, when it comes to sex in real life, she’ll be more than in the mood.
Be Authoritative
Regardless of whether your girl is the dominating type or not, all women basically love it when a man takes over the control from time to time. This doesn’t mean that you should opt for violence in any way (even verbal), but that you should let your masculinity show and charm her with your confidence, assertiveness, and masculinity. How does this translate to sexting? Well, this means that you get to lead the action in your fantasies and control everything that happens. Simply put, confidence is sexy, so you just need to be certain about what you want. There is no doubt that she will comply both via texts and, later on, in person.
Be Reminiscent
If you’ve already had sex before, use it as a reference point. It is always much easier to describe something if you’ve already done it, just make sure you’re not boring or repetitive. Find that one thing she absolutely loved the last time (for example kissing her neck) and remind her of it. Once she’s visualized it completely, modify the memory so that it includes something new you will be trying. Our mind works best when we have something familiar to cling on to. Also, remember to use things that are specific to you and your lover. This will reinforce the bond between you two and make the sexting act that much more private.
Hopefully, you’ll get to use these sexting tips whether you’re sexting online or just spamming your lover with countless SMS messages. Have you done it before? Tell us your experiences.
